Take a Solo Adventure
Solo travel is hugely restorative after heartbreak, immersing you in fresh surroundings that help blast away the emotional cobwebs clinging from the past. Exploring novel places also sparks inspiration as you gain new perspective about what’s truly important and how wildly beautiful life can be.
Maybe it’s a yoga retreat to a Costa Rica beach that speaks to your soul, a visit to museums and historical sites in London or a backpacking trip exploring Australia’s Outback. Wherever you dream of going, take yourself there. The clarity and confidence gained from boldly venturing forth into the unfamiliar unaccompanied is invaluable.
Fully Forgive Your Ex & Yourself
Harboring bitterness or blame simply anchors you further to the pain, while genuine forgiveness liberates your spirit to love freely again. Recognize that you both did the best you could with the self-awareness and skills you possessed at the time. Of course mistakes were made—you’re perfectly imperfect human beings!—so forgive them, forgive yourself and move forward positively.
Forgiveness sets you free from toxicity and resentment, makes available emotional space for future healthy connections and honors that the relationship gifted you precious life-lessons…no matter how brutally gleaned. When you know better, you do better. So be gentle with yourself and your former partner. You deserve to make peace and walk lightly into the unknown.
Be Patient With Your Progress
There’s no shortcut when learning how to forget someone you love deeply. Rushing the process usually backfires by bottling up rather than releasing emotions that inevitably erupt later. Let your wounded self be wherever it’s at on this journey—some days you’ll feel optimistic and strong, while others find you weeping all the way home from the office when a certain song plays.
Celebrate minor milestones like making it through your ex’s birthday without texting them, feeling genuine excitement about a second date or realizing you forgot to gloomily measure how long it’s been since the breakup. See progress in every positive step forward, not just the giant leaps. With consistent care and compassion for where you’re at emotionally, moving on becomes an organic process.
As horribly hard as it is, forgetting someone you passionately love is absolutely possible. By fully grieving the loss, removing lingering triggers and actively creating a joy-filled life of meaning and purpose, you help gently close the book on your shared past. While scars remain, they transform from ragged gashes oozing pain to silvery etchings recounting life lessons, spurring you wiser and more resilient into exciting new adventures.
You got this. One breath at a time.