Fill Your Life With Joy
An essential step that’s often overlooked when trying to forget someone is actively cultivating joy through activities that engage your senses, tap your creativity, connect you with others and reignite your passion for life.
Sorrow so easily becomes an addictive escape when it fills the void left by a departed loved one—don’t let it consume you! Embrace hobbies that make your soul smile, let laughter and good company take the space where sadness once festered, and purposefully do one small act daily that gives you that “yes!” feeling, even if it’s just making the perfect sunny-side up egg or sitting in quiet meditation.
Let joy displace grief. It truly is that simple…and that challenging. But so unbelievably rewarding.
Cry It Out, Then Say Goodbye
Find a quiet space alone, with a box of tissues handy. Let the tears flow freely as you speak openly from your heart the goodbye you never got to say. Tell your beloved everything you need them to know: how deeply grateful you are for your time shared, how sad your soul feels at their absence, how ready you are to let go and forge ahead positively into this new chapter of life.
Many of my clients report feeling a huge sense of release and closure from this simple ritual. By mindfully moving through the pain with compassion towards themselves and their ex partners, they gain clarity and comfort, often for the first time since the loss.
Lean On Your Support System
It takes a village to mend a broken heart. Don’t isolate yourself in solitude and sadness. Reach out to close friends and family who can offer an empathetic ear, wise perspective, warm hugs, distracting adventures and unconditional support. Let yourself be vulnerable and accept love and care from those who sincerely want to see you thrive again.
Connecting with people who have walked this painful path themselves can also help normalize your struggles, offer comfort and hope, and remind you that you won’t always feel this way—joy and lightness will return. You are never alone in this.
Set New Goals & Pursue Passions
Losing love often leaves you feeling empty, aimless and unmotivated. Combat this by intentionally setting fresh goals and chasing stalled dreams. What have you always wanted to accomplish but somehow never found the time for? Write a book? Start a nonprofit? Run a marathon? Learn Italian? Achieving aims that light you up can help replace the sense of purpose the relationship once gave you.
Immerse yourself in neglected passions that make you come alive. When’s the last time you danced, wrote poetry or played guitar until your fingers bled? Reignite that inner fire. You owe it to yourself to thrive, not just survive. This is your time to rediscover who you truly are.