Support Their Goals
While growing as an individual is important, your partner still yearns to know you’re invested in them and their dreams. Show tangible excitement and encouragement for their goals. Ask thoughtful questions, celebrate milestones, and find small ways to aid their journey.
For instance, if your significant other wants to write a book, you could brainstorm plot ideas with them or edit a draft chapter. If they’re training for a marathon, you might make healthy meals so they stay fueled.
This active support makes your partner feel valued and validated. By contributing rather than competing, you reinforce that you’re on the same team.
Send Sweet Messages
With today’s technology, sending affectionate messages is easier than ever. In my experience counseling long distance couples, I often recommend reaching out periodically via text, email or even old-fashioned love letters. These thoughtful pings brighten your significant other’s day and remind them you’re thinking about them.
The messages don’t need to be profound declarations, either. Shoot a cute selfie on your lunch break or forward a funny meme. Check in to ask about their day or let them know you appreciate something they recently did.
Little digital notes reinforce that your conversations could pick up at any time, fostering closeness and intimacy. So sprinkle in sweet messages whenever you’re apart!
Give Your Full Attention
In this age of constant distractions and devices vying for our focus, undivided attention has become a precious commodity. So when you’re together, make your partner feel like the only person in the world by giving them your complete concentration.
Silence notifications, set aside your phone and eliminate anything diverting your focus. Then actively listen as they speak without interruption. Ask follow-up questions, make eye contact and respond thoughtfully. You’ll be amazed how this small shift makes them light up with a sense of importance.
Giving your attention demonstrates presence, care and interest — all critical for feeling valued. Make it a point to regularly offer your partner this gift.