15. Unhealthy Relationship History

Past relationship patterns often hint at how someone may behave as a partner. Be cautious dating someone who describes all exes as “crazy” or “abusive” while taking zero responsibility in each failure. The common denominator may be their own toxic behaviors.

Similarly, be wary of serial cheaters or those who bounce rapidly from person to person. These habits often continue without meaningful self-work. I caution clients that dramatic proclamations about how “you’re the one to change them” usually prove false.

However, many have past relationship baggage but show self-awareness and growth through counseling or life experience. If they voluntarily acknowledge their previous unhealthy dynamics and demonstrate changed perspectives or behaviors, it’s a positive sign. We all have regrets, but need partners willing to acknowledge their own role in failures to become better partners.

In Conclusion

Positive relationships bring us happiness and fulfillment. But toxic partnerships can damage even the strongest individuals. That’s why recognizing red flags early is so important. By identifying and addressing problems directly, you give your relationship the best chance to thrive and grow stronger. However, some behaviors clearly cross the line into emotional abuse or neglect. Your own well-being must take priority. Have the courage to walk away when needed. You deserve to feel safe, respected and valued. The right partner won’t require changing who you are, but will inspire you to become your best self.

I hope these 15 red flags provide a helpful relationship guide. My goal is to empower you to build the healthy, supportive relationship you seek. Wishing you patience, compassion and clarity on your journey.