Emotional Intimacy Exercises to Reconnect
While physical closeness is foundational, emotional intimacy comes from truly knowing your partner’s inner world. Try these activities to open up:
The Revealing Game
Find a quiet spot without distractions. Decide who will go first.
Take turns speaking openly on a prompt like:
- “Something on my heart and mind right now is…”
- “Something I’m looking forward to is…”
- “Something that’s been bringing me joy recently is…”
- “Something I’ve been struggling with lately is…”
The speaker shares for 5-10 uninterrupted minutes while the listener offers their full presence. Avoid rebuttals or advice. Simply listen deeply to understand.
After both share, reflect on what you’ve learned about each other. Discuss any feelings that arose.
Active Listening
One partner speaks about any topic while the other listens without interrupting. The listener focuses intently on the speaker, reflecting back what they hear.
After 5-10 minutes, switch roles. The practice of listening fully without judgement helps partners feel truly heard and valued.
The Appreciation Exchange
We often overlook the little things our partners do that make life better. Take turns sharing 3-5 specific things you appreciate about one another.
Being reminded of the impact your partner has on you nurtures gratitude and fondness between you. Make this a weekly ritual.
The Relationship Check-In
Schedule 20-30 focused minutes to check in on your relationship. Discuss what’s working well, challenges that need attention, and share requests to better meet each other’s needs.
Checking in regularly keeps you aligned, airs grievances before they grow, and makes improving your connection a shared priority.
30 Minutes of Phone-Free Presence
Phones distract from meaningful connection. Spend 30 minutes giving your partner your full attention without technology. Talk, listen, gaze into each other’s eyes.
Removing disruptions requires you to be fully present with your partner, enhancing emotional intimacy.